First of all, we have to assess our priorities. I'm not at this time putting a value judgment on that ...it's just that it seems that the word 'proper' has been mostly replaced by the desire to 'please' oneself. And I think it's helpful for each of us to assess whether we believe that is true for us, or not.

And it has much to do with how we approach our appetites also.

I don't like Brussels sprouts.

I know they are good for you, and I've eaten them ...but, I can't say I've enjoyed them.

To me, they look like that fancy soap ...and smell much worse. Now, I never had an appetite for foul language, or telling a lie ...so, I never tasted soap as some of you may have while growing up, but I imagine it doesn't taste very good.  And I don't think Brussels sprouts do either.

Yet, if I was looking forward to a potluck ...it would be no problem to just pass up the Brussels sprouts, with so many options to choose from.

With a business meeting, or a legislative decisions ...there may be much less offered on the table.  But, with a potluck there is usually no limitations given ...as we usually rely on other people's choices what to bring, and even then we don't really have to choose anything from the table. We can always consume all of what we brought.

Our appetite may be satisfied by what our eyes see, but we then usually look for a place to sit ...so we can fulfill our appetite.